When I first got married, I didn't really do anything around the house. If I wanted to do something special for my wife, then I'd surprise her by unloading the dishwasher before she got home. For the first few times, she was very appreciative, and I was encouraged to do it again. After a while, though, unloading the dishwasher just became my job. I had to up my game. So, I dusted for her one day. She was ecstatic. I was back! After a few more dusts; however, dusting just became another of my jobs. I went through laundry, trash, vacuuming, bathrooms...all with the same result. Now, I have a whole list of "jobs" and no way to impress my wife.
I noticed we have entered an alternate reality, though, because now my wife comes home, plops herself on the couch to watch TV, and asks what's for dinner. I see myself when I first got married, and I wonder how one little nice gesture back-fired on me.