I was talking to C.D. today about not liking to make a decision about where I go out to eat with my wife. My wife asks me and I always start out by saying, “well, what do you want?” She then proceeds to give me suggestions which I promptly shoot down. She complains that I need to either be more decisive or less picky. So, C.D.’s theory is that we haven’t spent enough time together to have figured out our likes and dislikes as a married couple. I said that we have been married for over 3 years! She said, “but how much of that time have you actually spent together?”
So overachiever that I am, I decided to break out the math and do a little figuring. Okay so I figured that from the day after our second wedding until the day she moved to Missouri we were married a total of 2 years, 8 months, and 13 days. So that is the starting point for how much time we have spent together.
In an ideal situation, meaning we were together every possible conceivable moment, we would spend about 6 hours together every day during the week. That is accounting for 8 hours of sleeping, 9 hours of being at work, and 1 hour of traveling to and from work. (I understand those numbers are ridiculous, but in an ideal world we would all find time to get 8 hours of sleep and it wouldn’t take us any longer than 30 minutes to get to work in the morning. So work with me here.) So 6 hours of possible time to get to know each other. Let’s say that we spend the entire weekend together. So on Saturday and Sunday we would spend 16 hours a day together, removing only sleep time. Now we have the framework to figure this thing out.
A whole lot of number crunching later leaves us with 1 year, 0 months, 21 days of actual time together over the course of that 2 year, 8 month, 13 day span. That isn’t even half the time we have been married. So, needless to say we are virtually still newlyweds. At this rate it will take us the rest of our lives just to decide what to eat!
